Relationships

[RG]

Reading the thread about Stana and her having to make changes in the way she handles mail and autographs, I started to think about other things she’s said over the years and the changes we’ve seen in her since Castle aired. I have come to the conclusion that the career path she took has to be hell on any personal relationships she’s had over the years.

Now this isn’t about whether she has or hasn’t got a boyfriend/lover/whatever in her life, it is more thinking about how the choices we make have more of an impact on our lives than we probably realize at the time.

Case in point, by the time the future Mrs. G came into my life, everyone, friends, family and co-workers, not to mention me, thought that I would remain a bachelor the rest of my life. Surprise, surprise!

Now Stana says she always wanted to be an actress from a very early age (for some reason 4 seems to stand out). I have to wonder if there were any times in her life when she thought she should have taken another profession, wondering what her life would be like.

She has siblings, does she have any nieces or nephews? Tamala spoke about the producers kids all loving her and how great she is with children. Has she ever wondered whether she would have kids one day, or even if she wanted to have a baby?

Look at the hours they work on this show. They desperately need the breaks they get during the shooting season for the simple fact their bodies require it. Sixteen hour days do not make for long term, normal relationships. Skype, Facebook, Twitter, e-mail and telephones all have their place, but they sure don’t make up for a lost hug.

Nathan doesn’t work during the summer hiatus, Stana always does. We know that she is a driven person, and being an actress, she unfortunately has to squeeze in as much as possible in a lot fewer years than actors do. It’s unfair but it’s the way the business works.

More importantly however, she simply loves doing what she does, which is both the joy and curse of acting. How many family gatherings has she missed because of her schedule? How many possible dates has she said no to over the years? How many times has her enjoyment of her craft taken away from personal enjoyment, be it with friends, boyfriends, lovers or family? It’s quite possible that Stana Katic’s “one and done” was missed for an acting roll. This really isn’t as great a profession as one would assume when you stop and think about it.

Which brings me back to Stana no longer sending out autographs through the mail to her fans, and how hard that must be for her. She said in an interview when asked if there was someone special in her life, “I kiss, but I don’t tell.” Being an actress, and now a successful and famous actress who is involved in lots of ways to give back to others, makes it very hard to have a personal relationship that doesn’t show up on TMZ, Entertainment Tonight or on any of the scandal rags. The path she chose for herself isn’t an easy one by any means.

Not to say that the choices everyone here has made in their lives is all peaches and cream, it’s just that I feel pretty darn lucky knowing there isn’t someone hidden in the woods or in the grocery store, surreptitiously taking photographs of me. Now I completely understand that happening to Mrs. G, she’s a total fox, but as for me, I’ll stick to a quiet life in the woods and enjoy watching my favorite show every Monday night.

[brenwilliams]

Great observations and you may be right about the choices behind Stana's action. There's always sacrifices made in the lifestyles of the rich and famous.

My eleven year old wants to be a child actor. Wants to jump right in and become famous, have cool roles like in Spy Kids and to be famous. I do not want that for him. I will concede, he is a good little actor, with a light and comedic style, and given the right opportunities, he could succeed. I'm all for him get experience with acting in community theatre, school plays, church... Classes... But, what Mollie's mom did for her? No thank you.

That's actually not why I came here. I know late this summer, Nathan was dating Christina Ochoa. Anyone have a scoop? The fact that he didn't seem to have taken her to either of the red-carpet events of the last week, Are they still together? And when is that man going to settle down?

[java]

Nov 13, 2012 11:27:20 GMT -5 RG said:

Now I completely understand that happening to Mrs. G, she’s a total fox, but as for me, I’ll stick to a quiet life in the woods and enjoy watching my favorite show every Monday night.

But isn't that how it's suppose to work? You. Me. Wearing a dark suit or black tux while our leading ladies are the color on our dark canvas? They shine. We fade to the rear? Our biggest compliment of the night, "Hey RG/java, snazzy tie. Who's the hottie?"

[RG]

Jan 14, 2013 19:45:20 GMT -5 java said:

Nov 13, 2012 11:27:20 GMT -5 RG said:

Now I completely understand that happening to Mrs. G, she’s a total fox, but as for me, I’ll stick to a quiet life in the woods and enjoy watching my favorite show every Monday night.

But isn't that how it's suppose to work? You. Me. Wearing a dark suit or black tux while our leading ladies are the color on our dark canvas? They shine. We fade to the rear? Our biggest compliment of the night, "Hey RG/java, snazzy tie. Who's the hottie?"

Yeah, I totally agree!

[itzshirley]

So true, RG. In the public eye, your life is most certainly not your own anymore. I wish all of them great happiness in their personal lives. Everything else pales in comparison.

[eaz35173]

I really don't know how they do it - anyone famous and living in the fishbowl of the public. It's a wonder that marriages and relationships last at all in Hollywood. I think that those who make those relationships work (friends, spouses, etc.) are good at setting boundaries and keeping their private lives private. As you mentioned, I just can't imagine being stalked, photographed, and watched for every move I make out in the public. I imagine that those people who wish to be famous are aware of this aspect on some level, but I also imagine that the reality of living it is much more than they could have realized.